Tag: self help

Wired

Lifestyle May 2, 2014

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Our minds are so powerful. They can propel us to far away lands, heal us, or make us sick. This is why it’s so important to learn to focus our attention toward things that bring renewal. If you ever sit in on a group of neuropsychologist talking-why would you-then you would probably hear the phrase “what fires together, wires together.” Simply stated, the more us humans think a thought the easier and easier it becomes to think it again. This can work for us, like when we want to change an old unwanted pattern, but it can also work against us, like when we get use to tearing ourselves down. We can get so attached to particular thoughts that we even begin to think them without knowing we are thinking them.

If you find yourself in the loop of unwanted negative thoughts you may want to go try an
old therapist trick, the thought log. It’s all about increasing your awareness. When you notice yourself having a negative emotion or unwanted thought, get curious and investigate what happened right before having that thought or feeling-write it down…just the facts. Identify what thought came after that then how that thought made you feel. This will lead you to a place where you can begin to pick your negative thoughts apart and replace them with more realistic ones. Ask yourself questions like “would I say this to a close friend?”, “Is this thought based in fact or am I just really use to thinking it?”, or “Am I excluding information and just focusing on the negative stuff?” After some practice this process becomes pretty routine and you’ll notice yourself think much more balanced thoughts.

I hope this was helpful for someone.

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It’s Personal!

Advice, Mental Health April 27, 2013

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Us humans are social creatures. We need touch in the first few hours of life or else we literally die. We release hormones when we are with people we trust which make us love and trust them more, thanx oxytocin. We also have better health when we live in groups, or as normal people call them, families. So having said all of this, sometimes we just need to get away from our attachments. Taking this private time is also important. Wether its a few minutes in the bathroom or a solo vaca, reclaiming self is important. Well, the other day I wanted to get back to my thoughts without the clutter and jumble of too many other people. So I headed off to the Mondrian Hotel in Hollywood and just sat around the pool contemplating the many mysteries of life. I didn’t come up with a cure for cancer but I may have thought myself closer to some personal goals. Lesson, take time for you, you can get lost in the chaos.

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