Tag: nurture

Mala, Meditate, Mindful

Advice, DIY, Lifestyle, Mental Health January 10, 2017


With the world becoming seemingly more and more chaotic, I needed something to slow me down.  As many of you know, I practice mindfulness and meditation regularly and wanted my DIY this week to reflect something that will help my mindfulness journey, a Mala.  A Mala is a necklace of beads that you can use to count mantras or breaths during meditation.  They come in four different lengths 18, 27, 54, or 108.  I figure I need all the mantras possible so I went with a 108 bead Mala.



So, I headed down to The Bead Shop in Laguna to find the perfect beads for my meditation needs.  Ha that rhymed!  Also, I totally recommend that you go to an actual bead shop, don’t just order online.  There’s something so mindful about touching everything and getting a feel for what you’re buying. Anyway, I bought 108 counting beads made of Earth Jasper also known as the “Supreme Nurturer” it reminds us to help one another and brings tranquility into our lives.  Then I grabbed 3 marker beads made from Agate which is a protective stone.  Your marker beads should be a different size so you will know when you’ve passed a particular number of beads.  Then I bought one large Agate guru bead.  The guru bead is the large bead at the apex of the Mala where the tassel hangs.   I also added a pretty little tassel and Ohm symbol.

The spacing can get a little confusing, to keep everything simple I placed a large marker bead every 27 counting beads and the guru at the bottom.  It all came together to form 4 sections of 27 beads.


Happy meditating my friends!


Know when to Go

Lifestyle July 12, 2013



When do you know you need to seek help?  For some it’s after a major incident, when when life stretches us so thin we are afraid we may snap in two or break into a million pieces.  For others it is when those around us notice a major shift in our behavior   Then for others the help comes too late.  Here are a few things to keep in mind. 

1. Have you experienced a major life change? A major life change includes anything from a new job to a marriage. 

2. Do you have a history of mental illness?  If you have experienced a bout a depression in the past you are at risk for future bouts if untreated.  The same goes for other types of mental illness, anxiety, psychosis, etc…

3. Does anyone in your family have mental illness?  People with a first degree relative with a mental illness have a higher chance of also having a mental illness.  It’s a little nature and a little nurture. 

4. Have you noticed a recent change in your behavior? Have you been crying more lately?  Are you angry more often? Maybe you’ve lost a number of friends because of your actions.  Keep aware.  

Sometimes a shopping trip, a walk, a talk with friends is all you need to elevate and change your mood.  Sometimes it’s not enough.  This is a pretty serious sounding public announcement from your resident psychologist Cupcakes, but if you are looking or know anyone who is looking for a clinician here is an amazing link.  PSYCHOLOGIST TODAY