Tag: happiness

The Pursuit of Happiness

Lifestyle, Mental Health December 19, 2011

What is happiness?  Can we find it in the perfect job, most exquisite pair of shoes, the right boyfriend, or at the bottom of a tub of rocky road?  Happiness is this illusive creature of equal parts legend and desire.  Every moment in our life is all consumed with our striving for it; from diet choices, to education, shopping, and interpersonal interactions.  However; one of my favorite psychologists Viktor Frankl most eloquently posited…

Don’t aim at success-the more you aim at it and make it a target, the more you are going to miss it.  For sucess, like happiness, cannot be pursued; it must ensure…as the unintended side-effect of one’s personal dedication to a course greater than oneself.”

Happiness sits waiting for us in the everyday and mundane.  It’s less about finding and more about noticing.  True happiness is about shifting our minds and turning them toward noticing happy moments.  As I sit waiting on my beloved Cigars, I simply notice my happiness and decide to share the moment, hopefully inspiring happiness in others.


Stop looking!

Advice, Mental Health July 31, 2011

I’ve been having a nerd day.  As I edited my article on women’s appearance and body image I stumbled across a concept I’ve liked for a while.  FLOW… The concept of flow was conceptualized by researcher Mihaly Csikezentmihalyi and describes the phenomena of being completely engaged in an activity.  You may wonder how does being fully emerged in an activity correlate to physical appearance?  Well in another article by McKinley and Hyde they addressed how others focusing, looking, and commenting on a woman’s appearance creates a self observance that inhibits her from fully emerged in an activity.  After all, if you are constantly thinking about what others are thinking you will not be fully engaged in what you are doing.  Why does this matter?  Flow and total immersion in the now is proven to increase happiness and fulfillment.  Therefore if you aren’t able to ever experience flow it is likely that you will feel sad and down.  I mean who hasn’t gone to a coffee shop to study and had some random guy come up and create some spurious distraction.  The distraction, though momentary, can impact us for the rest of the day, we now walk with more caution because people may be watching.  Now we are focusing on HOW we are doing things and not simply doing them.